Healing After Infidelity: How Couples Therapy Can Help Rebuild Trust and Intimacy

When faced with partner betrayal trauma due to infidelity, compulsive lying, or addictive behaviors, the emotional and relational consequences can feel devastating. At BPB Counseling, our partner and couples therapist Jess Benedetto specializes in guiding individuals and couples through the intricate journey of affair repair, rebuilding trust, and returning to intimacy.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: A Path to Healing

Jess utilizes Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), an evidence-based approach that encourages acceptance of challenging emotions and commitment to meaningful, value-driven actions. Instead of avoiding the pain and discomfort associated with betrayal, ACT helps clients face and tolerate their emotions, ultimately reducing reliance on harmful coping mechanisms like compulsive behaviors or repeated infidelity.

Mindfulness and Cognitive Diffusion

Mindfulness techniques form a core part of therapy at BPB Counseling, helping clients observe their thoughts and feelings without immediately reacting. This practice, known as cognitive diffusion, allows couples to slow down automatic responses that fuel distrust and further betrayal. By recognizing that you are not defined by every thought or urge, you can regain control and align with your core values.

Understanding the Stages of Change

Change isn’t linear, especially when recovering from betrayal trauma and infidelity. Jess emphasizes the trans-theoretical model, which assesses your readiness to embrace new behaviors and maintain healthier relationship patterns. Even if motivation fluctuates, our therapeutic approach supports your progress at every stage, helping you sustain positive change.

Harm Reduction and Relapse Prevention

Recovery from infidelity and betrayal trauma often involves ups and downs. At BPB Counseling, Jess helps clients anticipate and manage triggers, both internal (stress, insecurity, painful memories) and external (specific people or situations), reducing the likelihood of relapse into harmful behaviors. Mistakes along the way do not mean starting over—they're simply part of your journey toward healthier relationships.

Addressing Trauma and Its Impact

Trauma frequently underlies compulsive and harmful behaviors seen in infidelity and betrayal trauma. Jess provides a compassionate, trauma-informed therapeutic environment, fostering safety and trust. This approach allows couples and individuals to face, understand, and heal the deeper wounds that contribute to destructive relationship patterns.

Supporting Both Partners' Healing Journeys

Understanding that recovery looks different for everyone is crucial. While one partner may be ready to commit to change, the betrayed partner might just be beginning their healing process. Jess provides couples therapy that acknowledges and supports each partner's unique path and pace. Through empathy, patience, and professional guidance, couples can find renewed intimacy and rebuild trust.

Start Your Healing Journey Today

Betrayal trauma and infidelity do not have to define your relationship. With professional guidance from Jess Benedetto at BPB Counseling, you can begin to repair the damage, rebuild trust, and rediscover intimacy.

Ready to begin your journey toward meaningful change?

Schedule a session with Jess Benedetto, Partner and Couples Therapist at BPB Counseling, and take the first step toward healing and rebuilding your relationship today.

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In The Sexual Integrity Workbook, esteemed professor and clinician Blair P. Bisher offers a blueprint for those seeking to overcome problematic sexual behaviors for the rest of their lives.

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Jess collaborates with couples and individual partners who have been impacted by problematic sexual behavior, sex addiction, porn addiction, and repeated infidelity and betrayal. She helps her clients rebuild trust and a healthier vision for their partnership and themselves, working toward sexual, relational, and personal wellness and integrity. Working from a humanistic and strengths-based lens, Jess employs an eclectic approach that is trauma- and neuroscience-informed and draws from Acceptance and Commitment, Cognitive Behavioral, Narrative, and Psychodynamic therapies. As a certified yoga instructor and nature enthusiast Jess also loves to bring movement and mindfulness into her work to help her clients build healthier relationships with their bodies and minds. Her clients explore their underlying needs, where unmet and unexpressed needs lead to problematic behaviors, motivation to change those behaviors, and core values, visions, and goals to guide them toward a more fulfilling future. Jess holds an MA in Mental Health Counseling and Behavioral Medicine from Boston University School of Medicine, has passed the National Clinical Mental Health Counselor exam (NCMHCE), and is a 200-Hour Registered Yoga Teacher with the National Yoga Alliance. She comes to the psychotherapy field after a rewarding career as an organizational consultant. Her experience helping non-profit leaders identify needs and collaborate on shared visions, values, and goals has been instrumental in her work with couples. #affair #affairrepair #infidelity #infidelitysupport #infidelityrecovery #repeatedinfidelity #addictionrecovery #csbd #csat #boston #couplestherapists #marriageadvice #bpbcounseling

Professor Blair P. Bisher walks you through his curated 14-item curriculum used in his work with men dealing with problematic sexual behavior.

This most often presents as addiction to porn addiction, adult material, sex addiction or repeated infidelity and BPB Counseling aids men in their effort to achieve sustainable sexual integrity. Sustainable sexual integrity is possible.

In this video Blair provides a deep-dive into the 14-item curated curriculum helping men understand, overcome and heal from problematic sexual behavior. Problematic sexual behavior most often presents as addiction to viewing adult material, sex addiction, infidelity, repeated infidelity, love addiction and sexual anorexia. Several topics covered across the fourteen sessions include understanding the addiction cycle, defense mechanisms, creating a relapse prevention plan, defining your process, understanding the role of intimacy within the individual, if in a relationship discussing partner betrayal trauma and how best to support one’s partner, understanding the impact of one’s childhood experiences which drive attachment style and so much more. All of this leads up to an individual becoming an expert on themselves, not simply stopping a problematic behavior. In working together, this quite often becomes a self-expertise presentation which will test one’s level of mastery and increase memory retention to ensure the learnings, tools, insights gained are retained long-term.

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